“Negotiator Safety Perspective Is A Strong Matter Of Perception” – Negotiation Tip of the Week

which would not support your negotiation efforts. Consider the following thoughts in your future negotiations.

Sensations:
Do you feel it? When negotiating, can you feel the change as it’s occurring? As you’re negotiating, attune yourself to your sensations. In some cases, you’ll sense subliminal signals; they may not fully register at your level of consciousness. If you’re aware of such sensations, you’ll be alert to signs that signal the need to alter your strategy. Note when you have a sense of foreboding. That may be your first warning signal that something may be amiss in the negotiation.

Assess Emotional Wellbeing:
Do you note your EQ (Emotional Quotient) when negotiating? Your EQ is your ability to read and adjust to signals in your environment based on the person that emits those signals. Thus, the better you are at deciphering signals and adjusting to them appropriately, the better you’ll be as a negotiator. Therefore, always maintain control of your EQ.

Environmental Impact:
What credence do you give to your negotiation environment? The environment shapes your perspective. If not controlled, it’ll shape you!

Consider this, you’re a salesperson at a Mercedes dealership. A Woman drives up in a Chevrolet. She comes in and begins looking at vehicles on the showroom; she’s looking at the high-end Mercedes, not those in the lower price range. What are your thoughts about her and how you might service her needs? What approach would you take to do so? Would your approach be the same if she arrived in a Mercedes? Do you consider the clothes and jewelry she’s wearing? You’ll probably consider those questions and many others before approaching her. Note what was omitted – her need to feel safe in dealing with you, the vehicle she might purchase related to how safe it is, how you’ll deal with her later. Unless you take that into consideration, you may be losing the opportunity to uncover her real desire to purchase the vehicle. Those omissions will also impact the negotiation.

In every negotiation, safety is a silent variable that tags along for the ride. If the exchange between you and the other negotiator becomes tense, the need for safety is usually the harbinger that signals foreboding. It’s also the creator of anxiety, which can lead to stress.

Conclusion:
As you negotiate, be aware of safety’s role. Do so from the perspective of everyone that’s involved in the negotiation. There will be times when you and the other negotiator are worried. You’ll miss that anxiousness as to why that worry exist if you lack focus.

Suffice it to say, to be more successful in your negotiations, first focus on the fears you and the other negotiator have about the outcome. In making those assessments, consider how you and she can use the perception of safety to enhance your perspective. By engaging in this process, you’ll eliminate potential pitfalls that might befall the negotiation, while developing a clearer path to where victory lies for both of you… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

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The Chess Player’s Guide to Negotiation

Many negotiators still use Sun Tzu’s Art of War as an authoritative reference. Now, while Art of War may be a good battle textbook; it’s a lousy guide for modern negotiations. Let’s face it; any approach that relies on calling the other party ‘the enemy’ is going to have problems creating mutually beneficial agreements!

Yet, the strategy and tactics of war games can have many lessons for negotiators. One war game that is very instructive is chess.

Position and Intent

Like negotiation, every move in a chess game involves taking a position. All your opponent sees is your moving your piece from one square to another. A novice chess player will just react to this with a counter-move. An experienced player, however, will try to ascertain the intent behind the move. What is their strategy? What is their long-term aim? While a beginner plans their next move, an experienced player is thinking at least three moves ahead. Likewise, an expert negotiator will always seek out the intent behind the adopted position; and – unlike a chess game – you can ask.

Three Questions

When I played competition chess, I developed my own three-question process that I used to examine every move made by my opponent. These same three questions work beautifully to help you understand the other side’s strategy in a negotiation.

Question 1: What does it attack?

Which of my positions (offers) are they attacking? Why are they choosing to focus on that one? Do I need to defend my position, or is it strong enough to stand on its own so I can ignore their criticism? You may need to reinforce the benefits of your offer if you feel they don’t fully appreciate them. Or, you might just recognise this as a tactic to unsettle you and it can safely be rebuffed. Some negotiators believe they can have you change your position by attacking it. The reality is that challenging the other side’s idea head-on is more likely to result in them to defending it, causing them to dig deeper into their entrenched position.

Question 2: What does it defend?

Are they trying to reinforce a previously made offer? This may give insight into their priorities. To negotiate most effectively, you need to understand what priorities their demands have for them. These will fall into three categories:

1. ‘Must haves’: essentials without which the negotiation would be pointless

2. ‘Nice-to-haves’: demands on which they are prepared to compromise

3. Ambit claims: demands that serve the role of bargaining chips – concessions that have no cost to them for which you might trade something of value.

You should assess every component of their offer to determine which category it falls into.

They may be defending because you’ve fallen into the trap of attacking them; either as a tactic or because they have annoyed you. This rarely works. Remember, you don’t have to prove them wrong – you only have to prove yourself right.

Question 3: What does it open up?

You may move one chess piece simply to bring another piece into play. Similarly, an offer in a negotiation may open up possibilities in areas you previously had not considered. Always be willing to explore areas that you may not have thought of in your preparation because it may be just one small piece of additional value that gets your deal over the line.

The only area where you should ditch the chess analogy is in the outcome. Chess players hope to come away with a crushing defeat with their opponent conceding and walking away a loser. In negotiation, you should always be looking for the honourable draw which has you concluding with satisfaction and mutual respect.

Kevin is an experienced conference speaker, workshop leader, facilitator and MC.

He speaks at conferences and seminars across Australia, New Zealand and Asia specialising in sales, negotiation skills, humour in business and communication skills. His clients include multi-national organisations, SMEs, politicians, members of the judiciary and Olympic athletes.